What Are You Really Grieving in Your Divorce?

1. Who initiated the divorce?

A) I did. I knew it was time to leave.

B) My spouse did. I didn't see it coming.

C) It was mutual. We both knew it wasn't working.

D) I did, but I'm questioning if it was the right choice.

2. What do you miss most about your marriage?

A) The companionship and emotional connection.

B) The financial security and shared expenses.

C) The intact family unit for my children.

D) The sense of identity as a married person.

3. When you think about your future, what worries you most?

A) Being alone and finding love again.

B) Financial stability and supporting myself.

C) How this affects my children's wellbeing.

D) Who I am without this relationship.

4. What has been the hardest part of telling people about your divorce?

A) Admitting that the relationship is over.

B) Explaining the financial implications.

C) Talking about how it affects the kids.

D) Feeling like I've failed at marriage.

5. What do you find yourself crying about most often?

A) Missing the intimacy and partnership.

B) Losing the home or lifestyle I had.

C) The impact on my children's lives.

D) Feeling lost and unsure of who I am now.

6. When you imagine your life in five years, what feels most uncertain?

A) Whether I'll find meaningful love again.

B) My financial security and independence.

C) My relationship with my children.

D) What kind of person I'll become.

7. What aspect of your divorce feels most overwhelming?

A) Learning to live alone again.

B) Managing all the finances by myself.

C) Coordinating custody and co-parenting.

D) Rebuilding my sense of self and purpose.

8. What do your friends and family seem most concerned about for you?

A) Whether I'll be lonely or isolated.

B) How I'll manage financially.

C) How the children are coping.

D) Whether I'll lose myself in the process.

9. When you have a good day, what usually makes it good?

A) Feeling hopeful about future relationships.

B) Feeling financially secure or independent.

C) Seeing my children happy and adjusted.

D) Feeling like myself again.

10. What would help you feel most confident about moving forward?

A) Knowing I can build healthy relationships.

B) Having a solid financial plan.

C) Seeing my children thrive despite the divorce.

D) Rediscovering who I am as an individual.

11. When you think about dating again, what concerns you most?

A) Whether I can trust someone new.

B) How it might affect my financial situation.

C) How my children would react.

D) Whether I know who I am outside of marriage.

12. What feels like the biggest loss in your divorce?

A) The partnership and shared dreams.

B) The financial security and lifestyle.

C) The family structure for my children.

D) The person I thought I was.

13. If you could magically fix one aspect of your situation, what would it be?

A) Heal the relationship with my ex-spouse.

B) Restore financial stability and security.

C) Protect my children from any negative effects.

D) Feel confident and whole as an individual.